This is my first post from long ago writings by me. It made me chuckle when I re-visited these writings from roughly 1983 when I was in my mid 20’s that I had the audacity to call them Pearls of Wisdom.
It was hard for me to record these exactly as they were written 30 some odd years ago, I so wanted to update and edit. But, for authenticity, I didn’t. Here, from a 20 something year old are some guidelines for life….
–Being attached to outcomes distorts your perception of what’s happening. You tend to ignore your intuition or gut feelings because you are absorbed with wishful thinking. You can have a preference in the outcome but you must be able to clearly see what is happening in the present time to be able to create an action plan to get to where you want to be.
–If you wait to see what is expected of you before you perform, the level of expected performance is set by something or someone outside yourself and vey well may be lower than your own. If you go for it and don’t put limits on yourself, no one else will either.
–The more you use your brain the better it works and the more creative it becomes, it is resonating at a higher level and “tunes in” to higher creativity.
–You can’t be happy in a relationship until your happy with yourself. Two halve’s don’t make a whole; it makes for a fragmented relationship with unrealistic exceptions resulting in resent. If you are hoping for self confidence as a result of a relationship, your process will be mirrored for you and you will attract into your orbit someone who is hoping to get self confidence from you. Self confidence is not given and recieved. It’s way more personal than that. (Seems a little dramatic now but when I wrote this I capitalized this next part which I will do here in honor of that young girl.)
SELF CONFIDENCE IS CREATED WITHIN YOURSELF BY A PROCESS OF TRYING/STUMBLING/FALLING/MAKING CORRECTIONS/TRYING AGAIN/AND FINALLY SUCCEEDING IN ENDEAVORS LARGE AND SMALL AND ASSERTING WHO YOU ARE AND COMING TO BAT FOR YOUR PERSONAL BOUNDRIES ALONG THEY WAY.
–I have never seen anything healthy come as a result of an outburst of anger. It usually only causes pain, fear and confusion. For the person who is supposedly expressing themselves, it leads to feelings of being out of control and wounded self esteem.
–The older you get, you more you look like who you are. So people who like themselves have an easier time aging.
–Creativity lies where there are no facades.
–We are not going to enjoy the “more” we get later if we’re not enjoying what we have now. Happiness comes from within, not from stuff.
— Work HARD!!