“It’s a lot easier being older,” my husband said the other day.

“Why?” I asked him.

“It’s easier making decisions. I put more value on my time and what I spent it on so that expedites my decision-making. I don’t spend time with people I don’t want to spend time with or do things I don’t want to do.

I had to laugh. Indeed, he and I are not the most social people. He said that humans are hard wired to be in tribes and groups and that we somehow missed that wiring. We have an inner circle of people we like spending time with, even in Dallas now, but we generally have no interest in meeting new people. Steve works long hours and we also love to spend time alone together.

Shortly before Christmas we were standing on our driveway at our new house in a gated community and a neighbor whom we had not met walked by and said, “Oh, hi! Are you the new neighbors?”

“Yes we are,” I said.

“Oh great! Then we’ll see you at the annual Christmas party up the street!” she exclaimed.

“Well,” I hesitated, “I’m not going to say we are anti-social….”

I heard Steve chuckle behind me. He loves that I’m the more vocal of the two of us and handle these types of things.

“…..but we just aren’t the type of people who like to meet new people,” I finished.

Her demeanor changed slightly and then she blurted “Oh, I totally get that! There is hardly enough time to see the people we already know!”

“Exactly!” I said, “Nice talking to you and have a great evening!”

After that exchange, I didn’t want to say nice to meet you.

10 thoughts on “Anti-Social

  1. laura miles

    Oh, that’s wonderful Andy. It’s so self- respecting to speak ones’ truth.
    AND you’re so fortunate to have such a perfect match in Steve.
    Love to both of you, Happy New Year.

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  2. Thanks for the support! Some people have a really hard time understanding it. And yes, we are very blessed to have found each other. I’m even a little bit more social than he is!
    HAPPY NEW YEAR to you!! Love, Andy


    • Yes, and I think it’s precisely that they ARE social that they can’t understand it. But differences are what make the world go ’round. When I was a public speaker I used to say, “there are two kinds of people in the world, those who are like you and those who are wierd.” Hehe.

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  3. Perfect timing, I was just browbeating myself for finding less than attractive traits in most of the people I know. Less than attractive to me that is, some of them are very popular. Maybe I got it from you.

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